Reactivate Yourself

- October 10, 2020

Why Be Judgmental ?

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A lot of time I have been thinking why most people are usually being judgmental. I feel we first need to know what we mean by being judgmental. To me, being judgmental is evaluating a person critically. This is being negative, harmful and spreading unhelpful aura around. It is true that we all have normal positive and negative thoughts. But being judgmental, I feel spoils the relationships and increases enmity and bad feelings around us. I am of the opinion that generally there are two main types of judgmental persons. One who expresses critical views in the absence of the person and behind his/her back. This I feel is backbiting which is negative behavior. The person is not there in person to counter the critical views. In the second instance when the critical views are discussed in front of the person, it normally leads to bad taste, enmity and disagreements.

I feel we should not judge a person from his/her clothes, walking style or conduct. I feel we need to study the person’s over all character, conduct and qualities. For example, we all make mistakes while looking for a matrimonial match for our sons/daughters. I have observed all of us pass freely judgments on the clothing, communication and facial expressions of boy/girl as the case may be. It is surprising how people in a matter of one/two hours try to judge the match. At times, the person may be shy , not showy and flashy type and may not like to communicate freely but his/her credentials may be excellent.

I firmly believe that anybody being judgmental in assessing people/situation may not be an all rounder to pass comments about others freely. I would like to suggest to those who have bad habit of judging people, to spend time with them to make their own evaluations and discuss with their spouses/children and carry changes in themselves before they start evaluating others. I am therefore of the opinion that we should as far as possible avoid being judgmental for creating a positive relationships and good surroundings.

To tap it-“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself”.