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                          Positive Personal Impact

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How often do we contemplate why some people have challenging and captivating persona? They go up, above and beyond their qualities out of nowhere to distinction and have speedy career steps forward. Some of them we spot delivering talks at the business schools, addressing professional conferences and industry meets and are often covered by the media. They are usually spotted sharing their success stories on the social media. Are these individuals just well-groomed than the rest? Or do they have a ‘Midas’ touch in their approach that we may not be familiar with? On the contrary the reason so many of us fails to generate satisfying inner and exterior self to find out how best to “connect the dots.” Regularly most of us at some point of time in our lives look at someone who seems to have an aura along with the charm, good attitudes, confidence etc. We wish we could be like that too. For instance, as a school kid, I would always emulate my late elder brother (we lost him young). He displayed an immaculate personality. His flawless communications, conduct and temperament, positivity to the core, highly empathetic, and an upright inside out are still fresh in my mind. On looking back, I feel some of his qualities have acted like a plant sapling in my being.

Building self-understanding habitually seems easy but initiating and carrying forward the process is always difficult. It therefore may be the starting point to stand out from the pack by reinventing and rebuilding “YOU”. So what is that we plan to change? For a strong and successful transition, there is unquestionably need to identify what is making us unhappy and what will make us fulfilled and contended. Why doesn’t each one of us consider ourselves as a ‘Personal Brand’ and work on developing our total ‘Self’? What impressions do we carry and portray to others? Does our reputation define and convey our uniqueness, values and personality attributes better than others. To influence and swing our Personal Brand, it is important to be poised and flexible so that we are noticed by everyone. It is often seen that good influencers with their personal impact and presence consequently leave a strong feelings behind.

                        

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Powerful personal impact is in a way reflection of our character and helps evaluating our competencies, standards and style to remain upbeat and in reckoning. It is a preamble to our being and can inspire and have a magnetic influence around. Most people emphasize and work on their exterior self but the core and base of personal impact will always remain our inner personality attributes such as optimistic thinking, constructive mind-set and upbeat feelings. These help in fostering immaculate presentation and build an ambience around us. Lydia Ramsey in her book “Manners That Sell” states that, “It takes a few seconds to make a negative impression and a lifetime to overcome one”. Studies have depicted that 55% of how people judge us is based on what they see, 7% is based on the words they hear, and 35%on tone of voice.

Competence and skills alone do not craft our persona. What is equally required is how we are able to generate a positive personal force such as: ambience, self-belief, trust, personal values, strong communication skills and leading from the front. Being technically good at our job isn’t enough today – strong people skills are equally essential and help in differentiating us from our competitors. Irrespective of our role, we need to be able to make a great first impression, connect with others, present our ideas assertively and have lasting relationships etc. Positive personal impact surely creates charm and people come down around us, want to be seen and associated with us and may also role model us. Setbacks, frustrations and letdowns are common and how we manage these satisfactorily surely adds to our personal impact.

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Reactivate Yourself

Build on Story

Connect with people to inspire vision, persuasion, motivation etc. by building on our narratives. People need to know more about us by seeing us walk the talk. They tend to analyze whether we are able to create a true, meaningful, lasting and trustworthy image. Don’t leave things to chance because people tend to form an impression. Actively managing others perception of us means that people will understand clearly who we are and what we stand for.

Build on Legacy

Following tips will be useful

• Visualize how people will remember us when we’re gone. Think about the recollections we are going to leave behind.

• Don’t ever project an artificial image of personal values. Authenticity is essential. Need for disciplining our mind, controlling our emotions and behavior. Depending on the situation, be mentally prepared to make few adjustments here and there at times and maintain a balance between values and principles and their practical applications.

• Constructive thinking is a force that usually creates an aura and assertion around. If we are unable to create a strong personal presence, it may result in hypocrisy and lead to eroding our image.

• In times of crisis being positive will surely build a base for ensuing success in our cherished efforts.

Open Communications

Potency in communications conveys personal impact and this needs to be transparent, open and without any bias as for as possible. While working for an organization, if the information shared is confidential, ensure that it does not go out as a gossip. Holding on to some vital information back, needs to be managed diplomatically without creating heartburns and misunderstandings around.

Physical Appearance

Our exterior personality attributes are equally important. People carry our first impression for long time and therefore it is imperative for us to dress professionally, conduct decently, communicate graciously and remain mentally alert and sharp. Do some physical exercises and yoga regularly.

Mutual Respect for Feelings

The way we react to situations speaks volumes about control on our feelings. At times we may be tempted to give back but remember these are the testing times for maintaining calm. Just react by a brief smile. We have no control on outside circumstances but surely we can control our reactions. Extending a hand of helping others gives us a sense of connectedness and fulfilment. Needless to mention professional success comes down to one's ability to build and maintain extraordinary relationships.

Optimistic and Affirmative Attitudes

Attitudes are habitual response to situations surrounding us based on our thoughts. Following tips will be helpful:

• Do not make gloomy comments and avoid describing self as a letdown even under extreme provocation and keep the tone of voice upbeat.

• Learn and practice constructive thinking and feelings by changing opinions which are often based on perception, observations and beliefs.

• There may be times when in spite of being constructive and helpful, yet you may fail temporarily or face setbacks. Don’t lose hope but keep trying tirelessly.

• Often we may not be taken seriously in the first few interactions and we may be put on wait and watch. However, it depends on the type of image and convincing capability we have built.

• Deliver on what we say we’ll do. If we can’t meet a commitment, let others connected know.

• Accept Things which cannot be changed

• Accept mistakes as a learning experience and stop offering excuses. The highest levels of positive personal impact come from learning and developing new skills.

Bhushan Kachru

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